Life Isn’t About Waiting Out the Storm. It’s About Dancing in The Rain.
One thing we can all count on is that in life we will encounter storms. Turbulent times that sometimes shake us to the bone. But Life Isn’t About Waiting Out the Storm. It’s About Dancing in The Rain.
When we go through troubling times, we as humans doubt ourselves, our decisions, our choices, or even our lifestyle. We can feel not good enough. We can second guess ourselves. With some, it can become a habit.
“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.”
— Buddha[1]
Doubt can and will make the storms in life longer, and more frequent occurrences. Doubt is the biggest killer of dreams in a person. When we doubt ourselves, we freeze up for fear of failure, rejection, pain, or humiliation.
“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.”
— William Shakespeare,[2]
So how do we break the cycle of doubt in ourselves and in our lives, so when the storms of life appear, we can dance in the rain? Here are some suggestions that might help.
- Every Day Is A Free Reset from The Day Before
Buddha said, “What you are is what you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now”[3]. Living in the moment is the easiest way to not allow the past to influence your today. Yes, you made a mistake, maybe even a huge mistake. But each new day you are given is a chance to do better. It’s a free reset from the day before.
Imagine walking forward but looking backwards. It wouldn’t be pretty. You wouldn’t make any progress because you would not be going in the best direction for the simple fact that you can’t see what’s in front of you. You could also encounter something more dangerous that you could not see in your path.
It’s okay to visit the past, just don’t park there.
— Joseph Binning
- Like A Snake Sheds Its Skin, Shed Your Past Every Day
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. With each storm we encounter, we must make decisions. Some will be wrong, but some will be right. Learn from them and remember them.
Stay away from the self-defeating attitude of self-doubt. Forgive yourself for yesterday and charge forward into today.
- Just Because It Didn’t Work This Time Does Not Mean It Won’t Work.
Relationships are a splendid example of this. I’ve heard it said by friends after a breakup that they will never be in a relationship ever again. That is a genuine sentiment for them.
Focusing on the pain and hurt of the end will dampen the memory of what was good. Try to focus on the good so you can repeat it. Be honest about what didn’t work and try not to repeat it.
- Failure Is Not the Opposite of Success, Its Part of It.
- Michael Jordan, one of professional basketball greatest legends, was told by his High School coach he was too small to play basketball.
- They fired Walt Disney from a newspaper job for lack of originality and lack of imagination.
- Thomas Edison failed over 1000 times before his invention finally worked. He called it the light bulb.
- Stephen King’s threw away his first book, Carrie. His wife fished it out and encouraged him to resubmit it. And the rest is history.
- During Vincent Van Gogh’s lifetime, Van Gogh sold only one painting, and this was to a friend and only for a small amount of money. While Van Gogh was never a success during his life, he continued painting, sometimes starving to complete his over 800 known works. Today, some are worth hundreds of millions of dollars each.
- Remember That Whoever Is Trying to Bring You Down Is Already Beneath You
Some people have a way of projecting their fears onto us, some without even knowing it. Sometimes people will try to convince us we cannot do something because they are or were too afraid to try themselves. Some people are just ugly inside and project it outwards.
Always remember that just because someone says something does not make it true. Everyone may have an opinion of you. Just remember you also have the right to believe something different from what they believe. And its okay.
- Happy Ever After Begins with Happy
When the storms come, and they will, don’t fear them, embrace them. Your attitude on how you deal with any situation will always determine its outcome. If you say you can or can’t, you are correct. If you say you can’t, it means you won’t.
Life Isn’t About Waiting Out the Storm. It’s About Dancing in The Rain is a metaphor for not allowing life’s storms to upset your happiness. By choosing to be happy everything is manageable. Happiness is not external and depending on outside circumstances. Happiness is an internal choice.
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IF YOU WANT TO SEE THE RAINBOW, YOU MUST ENDURE THE RAIN.
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[1] Buddha Quotes/SamplePosts.com/accessed 11/06/2020/https://www.sampleposts.com/buddha-quotes/
[2] William Shakespeare > Quotes > Quotable Quote/godreads.com/accessed 11/06/2020/https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/21546-our-doubts-are-traitors-and-make-us-lose-the-good
[3] Gautama Buddha > Quotes > Quotable Quote/goodreads.com/accessed 11/06/2020/https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/187753-what-you-are-is-what-you-have-been-what-you-ll
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